The Comparison Game

Have you ever had this happen? You’ll be scrolling on your newsfeed, and all of a sudden, you’re staring at a friend’s picture or post with envy. Now, it can be anything. They can be posting about getting engaged. Or, they can be posting about the awesome new opportunity they have. And, as you’re clicking the like button, you can not help but wonder: why not me?

If this hasn’t happened to you, then you are clearly lying. After all, social media does this to just about everyone.

With that being said, why do we do this? We could be happy in our life, until we see someone else. Or, we can be hanging out with a friend, and hear about their relationship, only to wonder if our own is in trouble because we are not doing that one thing like them.

However, this is something that we need to stop — or at least work on in 2019. According to an article on Psychology Today entitled 3 Reasons to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others, comparing ourselves to others is dangerous for a number of reasons — the big one being that it’s all an illusion.

I mean let’s get real for a moment. Do we ever post the negative things on Facebook? Someone may post about getting a new job. But, do we post about the many rejections that we received? Or, do we post about the time that we lost our job? Maybe not.

Sometimes, I think social media is a blessing and a curse.

Everyone has their own journey and life, and their own path to follow. Sure, it’s human nature to be jealous of awesome things that others have. But, that doesn’t mean to forget the awesome things that are in our lives right now.

Furthermore, let me add this — everyone is different. For instance, what might feel right for one friend’s relationship isn’t right for you. One friend might get engaged after only knowing her partner for a few months. Another will be a few years. Timing is a weird thing, and truly, it’s different for everyone.

Therefore, I have a resolution for all of you readers if you are caught red handed doing this. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, whether that may be a relationship, an awesome job or even a vacation, take a moment to write a list of all that you are blessed with. Trust me, if you are anything like me, it will be a long one. 

Craft Tutorial: Stretch Charm Bracelet

One of my favorite things to make is a charm stretch bracelet. I love making them because they are simple and quick. They are perfect for those who looking to learn how to make jewelry themselves, and need an easy craft to get through the day. 


What’s awesome about this project is that it’s something that can be versatile. You can personalize it to be just about any style for anyone on your list.

Interested? Here’s how you make it:

What You Need:

  • Stretchy Cord — I like this one, which you can get at any craft store.
  • Beads of your choice.
  • Charm of your choice.
  • Scissors


How to Make It:

  1. Cut a piece of stretchy cord that is about three inches longer than you need to make it.
  2. Take your charm, and put it in the middle of the bracelet.
  3. Put beads on both sides of the charm.
  4. Once the bracelet is the size that you want it, tie a double knot.
  5. Pull the strings tightly, and cut excess.
  6. Voila!

Tips and Tricks:


There are so many different ways to do this. For instance, one of my favorite things to do with this style is to add silver beads to really make it pop. Another design I often go to is one with alternating both pearls and crystals. The options are truly endless!


An Avid Reader Uses An E-Reader — Here’s What Happened

Many of my readers will know that I am an avid reader. I am a frequent shopper at Barnes and Noble, and I have unread books scattered everywhere in my home. And, like many frequent readers, I swore that I never would become one of those readers. You know, the ones that would use a Nook or a Kindle.

Now, I was given a Nook as a gift when I was a senior in high school. It was 2011, so it was pretty much meant to be used for the sole purpose of just reading books. I liked it because this tiny thing could store so many books. I didn’t like it because I craved the physical sensation of holding a book in my hand — something that was done for hundreds upon hundreds of generations before my own. So, I let the Nook collect dust for the time being.


Earlier this year, I went away with my boyfriend and his family to a trip in Boston. Being the bibliofile that I am, I of course took a book. When it came time to bed, my boyfriend’s mother whipped out her Nook. I was first of all amazed that they had color ones, but I also was surprised that tiny little thing held over 300 books.

Needless to say, I wanted to get an e-reader after that. However, here’s the thing. I have over two dozen physical books lying around my house — all of which that were waiting to be read. So, one by one, I began to chip away at them.

Last month, however, I really wanted to read this book called the Hate U Give. The book was expensive everywhere I went — that is except for the Kindle edition (my mom let me use her never used Kindle).

So, I downloaded it.
And, I loved it.

I loved that it was so easy to read it — even easier than reading a physical book. The book  I also loved that I didn’t have to use a reading light if I wanted to read in the dark.

What I also loved was the portability that came with it. Books would often weigh down my purse, which is why I left what I was reading at home. However, an iPad or my Kindle would weigh about a quarter of the weight. Now, I can read as much as I want to — whether at lunch or waiting in an doctor’s office. And, I can see myself using it a ton when I travel — no more weighing my bag down with two or three books. I can just bring my iPad and call it a day.

Needless to say, I’m reading a ton more. Which, as an avid reader, is something that makes me happy.

Therefore, to all of you readers out there, I’m going to advise you one thing. Don’t knock the e-reader until you try it.

Count Your Blessings

Recently, I’ve been working to try to get rid of stuff. I have a tendency to be a bit of a pack rat, and I am currently trying to reduce clutter and make things a bit neater.

So far, it’s been a bit of a slow process. I would get rid of a few items here and there rather than dive in head first to do the project (any progress is better than none — am I right?).

WIth that being said, I recently began to think about something. I am extremely lucky to have the problem where I need to get rid of things. There are so many people out there who don’t have that luxury — or even have enough.

In that moment, I felt blessed. And, developed the desire to dig deeper into my closets for items that I no longer used/or that no longer fit just to help someone who is cold stay warm.

Sometimes, we often forget how lucky we really are. Whether it may be the loving family, significant other, friends that we have in our lives, or even having a roof over our heads, we are lucky. With the hustle and bustle of everyday life, that is often forgotten.

So, while you are stressing out about the holidays, or your job, take a step back. In that moment, think of what you are thankful for and what you are blessed to have in your life. Chances are, you’ll probably have a lot to be grateful for.

Therefore, count your blessings this holiday season. And, if you have a moment, try to go through those closets, get rid of things that you no longer use, and donate them. I’m certain that there is someone out there who will be extremely grateful for your generosity.

The Best Books I Read In 2018 . . . So Far!

It’s hard to believe that 2018 is drawing to a close. This year, I was blessed to be able to exceed my Goodreads reading challenge goals by reading over 60 books (my challenge was to read 52). Here are some of the highlights of this year — in no particular order:


The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas

Leah On The Offbeat by Becky Albertalli

Chocolate Please by Lisa Lampenelli

Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty

A Simple Favor by Darcey Bell

The Dinner List by Rebecca Serle

All We Ever Wanted by Emily Giffin

Alex Approximately by Jenn Bennett

The Nerdy and The Dirty by B.T. Gotfried

Love and Luck by Jenna Evans Welch

Save The Date by Morgan Matson

Dirty Rush by Taylor Bell

Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli

The Upside of the Unrequited by Becky Albertalli

A Totally Awkward Love Story by Tom Ellen and Lucy Ivison

Into the Water by Paula Hawkins

Turtles All The Way Down by John Green

Famous In Love by Rebecca Serle

Why You Need To Treat Yourself This Holiday Season

Christmastime is here, and you know what that means. You are making your list and checking it twice to figure out who was naughty or nice. However, while you’re thinking about everyone and your mother this holiday season, there should be one person on your list. I know what you’re thinking: one more person? Oh god.

That person should be you.

Okay, so I know that this is the time of year that everyone is pinching pennies to make sure you get enough gifts for everyone. However, hear me out. Black Friday is in a couple of days. Everything is pretty much on sale – including the things that normally don’t go on sale like NOOKS and iPads. This is the time that if you’re going to get anything to get it. After all, I don’t know about you, but I like getting my hands on a great deal.

With that being said, the holidays are about giving. Yes, I know. However, one of the most important things in life is to also self-care. And, sometimes, that is treating yourself to something nice, maybe indulgent, and thinking I deserve this.

Treating yourself can also be helpful in so many different ways too. For instance, have you been putting off getting some new clothes or something else that you may need. And, if Old Navy is having a sale on jeans that you wear and it’s a good price, then why not? Or, if you stumble across something awesome when you’re at the mall that you fall in love with and the price is right, why not get it?

This is my mentality here. Every day, we work hard no matter what we do. Therefore, we deserve something that makes us smile or makes life a little better. Therefore, we deserve to splurge – just a little bit – on something that could make you smile.

And, as said on Parks and Recreation, treat yourself. Trust me, you deserve it. Why? Because you are awesome.

November Book of the Month Review

Liane Moriarty has been one of my favorite authors since I read Big Little Lies last year. Since then, I’ve read almost every one of her books including: What Alice Forgot and Truly Madly Guilty. So, when her new novel was one of the choices for this month’s Book of the Month, I jumped up for joy.


Her new novel is called Nine Perfect Strangers. The novel is about nine strangers who meet while going to a health spa. The cast of characters are diverse, and includes an ex-sports car, a couple who wants to save their marriage, a family recovering from loss, and a romance author rebounding from a bad review and a bad experience.

Now the health spa is pretty unique, with extreme forms of healing. However, one extreme method of ‘healing’ brings these guys together to create an interesting bond to say the least.

Overall, the book was one of her better ones. At first, the book started off slow. But, as soon as you reach the midpoint of the novel things pick up — and you don’t want to put it down.

One thing that I really liked about this book is that Moriarty doesn’t reveal everything up right up front. The characters are like onions, and you have to peel them one layer at a time. She does this in all of her books, which as a reader makes it enjoyable and keeps it interesting. In this novel, she does this with all of the characters, including Frances the romance novelist. At first, you wonder why Frances is in the state that she is in. Overtime, it is revealed that she was involved in an online dating scam, where she lost some money. 

The only thing I didn’t like was the main character Masha, who has a dark past and reinvents herself — not just once, but several times. And, while she was the villain, it was hard to hate her. The woman almost died, and she lost a child. But, this woman was intense and rude. I’m not sure if this had anything to do with her past, but I definitely didn’t like how she treated her guests. There was definitely something wrong with her, but her intensity definitely intensified things.

With that being said, I highly recommend this book to all of those who are looking for a great read during holiday travel, or just a good book to curl up with to unwind during the holiday season.

DIY Project: Crystal “Carrie” Necklace

Inspired by the necklace that was given to Carrie Bradshaw by Aleksandr Petrovsky, this necklace is one of my favorite pieces that I’ve made lately. And, even though it is beautiful, it is actually pretty simple (and inexpensive) to make.


What I also love about this is that you can make it any way you want. The one that I made has five beads. However, you can really make it any way you want. For example, you can have it with one simple pearl. Or, you can make it with leftover black beads. The options are truly limitless, which is perfect for pretty much anyone with any style.

So, if you’re looking for a gift for anyone in your life, this might be the perfect thing.

What you need:

  • 1 Eye Pin (I get mine at Jo-Ann)
  • Bead(s) of your choice
  • One chain ( I highly recommend the chain I used, which is from Jo-Ann. It’s made of Stainless Steel, which is perfect for all of those who have allergies to certain types of metal. However, whatever you use, make sure that it has a round link).
  • Wire cutters
  • One round-nose pliers
  • One side pliers.


  1. Get your chain, and measure the middle of it. If you have a chain that is 18 inches, mark off a link that is in the middle.
  2. Get your wire cutters and cut that link.
  3. Take an eye pin and put the desired amount of beads on the pin.
  4. Take the end of the pin, and put it forward towards the beads.
  5. Create a loop.
  6. Take your side pliers, and open the loop. Put it one end of the chain. Do the same for the other side.
  7. Voila! You’re done.

Growing Pains: Getting Real About The Pains of Having Friendships (And Them Changing) As An Adult

When you are a student, making and keeping friends is so easy. In middle school, that basically meant sitting next to someone everyday at lunch to dish on the interaction in the hallway with that boy you’ve had a crush on for a week. In college, this means having a bunch of classes with someone and ranting about the professor’s insane grading system.

Now, enter adulthood. Things are a bit different. First of, you are balancing so much. You are working full time, you’re remembering to pay bills, and maybe you are in a relationship. Sometimes, we become swept up in that, and forget the friends. Or, we simply don’t stay in touch with them or see them as much as you’d like.

The real growing pains, though, is when you begin to grow apart from a best friend. It’s a safe assumption that people change throughout their lives. At 20, we view the world differently then we did at 24. And, a lot happens in a person’s 20’s. You graduate college. You get your wings, and apply for a full time job. You might also fall in love, and get married. I mean, I’m not the same person that I was at 24. I am more responsible, and I’ve grown a lot.

And, that changes you.

With that being said, it also changes your friendships. People don’t often grow at the same rate as each other. This sometimes creates problems. This can be a friend, who after years of being friends, just brings you down. Or, someone who you just don’t have any fun with anymore. Or, sometimes, something happens to destroy your friendship completely.

I’m going to be honest, change sometimes sucks. It causes true pain, sometimes to the point where you are sore to the touch. Losing a friend is perhaps the most painful thing of all. I mean, you don’t expect to lose a friend. Friends are people that you think are going to concrete. I mean, in high school, chances are your girls are the ones who helped you get over that boy that you used to date? You never expect that to go away.

What many don’t realize is that losing a friend is worse than a romantic breakup. In my opinion at least. There might be something that was the catalyst, a big fight or someone sleeping with your boyfriend. Or, you drifted apart. No one talks about the pain — nor deems it to be a thing.

And, it sucks.

How many of you reading this are thinking of someone right now?

I am.

It’s sad to lose someone who you put everything into. To think that they are at the other end of a phone, only you can’t call them for whatever reason.

Sometimes, though this isn’t a permanent thing. Sometimes, years later you can reconnect. Others, not so much.

I firmly believe that the only time in life when a friend’s true colors come out is when you go through something awful. A death. An injury or a breakup. Who is the person who is always there for you? Who calls and checks in? Chances are, they are your true friends.

I will end with an assuring quote from Dr. Seuss: “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” That quote can easily be said about losing a friend, or growing in two different directions.

14 Things Only Book Lovers Understand

If you haven’t guessed by now, I love to read. And, I love to read everything — from young adult to mystery to fiction to celebrity commentaries. I know that I am not alone here — many of my friends are heavy readers such as myself.


But, if you’re a book-lover like me, chances are the hobby comes with its own set of problems and situations. Here are some of them:

  1. No amount of books are ever enough. You may have a pile of books that you haven’t read yet, but you need to get that copy of that book that you’ve been dying to read. You know, to add it to your stockpile.
  2. No matter where you go, you need a book. Whether it’s to the dentist or for your break at work or school, if you have a few extra minutes, you’re going to want to have a book on hand.
  3. When you go on vacation, you have to make sure that you pack enough books. So, you’re going away for the weekend. You gotta make sure you have reading material for the plane ride there, for any down time, and for the ride home. Naturally, you’ve got to make sure you have at least two books on hand. Why? Just in case you finish the first of course. And, don’t get me started if you’re halfway through the first one, and you need to make sure you have enough reading material for your trip. 90 percent of the weight for my carry on is just from books. #sorrynotsorry
  4. You constantly run out of places to put your books. So, you’ve filled up your bookcase(s), and you still have books lying around. That’s the time when things start to get creative, and you have a lining of novels in your closet.
  5. You want to reread a favorite, but have so many books that you haven’t read yet. 
  6. Not being able to decide what to read next. Do I want to read a swoon worthy YA read? Or, do I want to read an autobiography? Decisions, decisions, decisions.
  7. You always have to read the book first before seeing the movie. And, it’s always never measured up. Well, most of the time.
  8. You can easily spend an entire day reading. . . oops. The best lazy Sundays are spent curled up in a ball with a good read. Hands down.
  9. The feeling of both happiness and sadness when you finish a good book. Yay, you finished the book. But, it was so good that you needed to know more. What will happen next? If there is no sequel, how else are you expected to know?
  10. You won’t let anyone borrow your books. Like ever. Even if they beg and plead, you just can’t afford the risk.
  11. You were jealous of Beast’s library in Beauty and the Beast. I mean, come on. That’s any book lover gal’s dream, right?
  12. You bought an e-reader, however, you keep on going back to physical copies.  Nothing is the same as holding an actual book in my hand. Just sayin’.
  13. You’ve been emotionally attached to a character in a book. There are so many characters that I’ve become emotionally attached to. Harry Potter. Augustus Waters. Charlie from Perks of Being A Wallflower. All of these characters have won a place in my heart.
  14. The feeling of excitement when you meet someone who is obsessed with the same books you are. Ahh, your new BFF!