“Why couldn’t Eric make it?”
“Does Eric not like us?”
Those are just a few of the many things that I have been asked about during holiday family gatherings during the two years that I’ve been dating my boyfriend. To be honest, I feel as though that’s something that we honestly don’t talk about balancing every family gathering during the holiday season. Honestly though, it’s super overwhelming.
First and foremost, let’s focus on the positive. It’s really great that people want our significant others are welcome to our family gatherings. It’s really great that they care about them, and their whereabouts to, because it shows that they care that they have a place to go during the holiday season.
That said, we’re going to be honest here — it’s pretty overwhelming.
We all have a lot of family — mom’s side, dad’s side, etc. Since my parents are divorced, for me there are two separate celebrations. My boyfriend has a lot of family gatherings as well since he has a big family. Needless to say, there are a lot of holiday parties to hit. And since many of us can’t be in the same place at the same time, it means that sometimes that we have to miss a celebration. And sometimes, this means that we have to go to things separate.
After all, everyone has their own traditions.
Let’s just make this clear right now: he is not obligated to go to every family function. And, that’s perfectly okay.
So, while my boyfriend may not be attending every single gathering, you bet that he will be there as much as he can. And, vice versa. Family is a crucial part of the holidays and sometimes as much as we would like it that they are there with us, it’s okay to miss somethings.
It’s not a snub. It just means that we’re balancing the best ways that we can. And, while he may not be there in person, please note that he is still giving you holiday wishes from wherever he is.