Tomorrow, I am turning 25 years old. This year was one of the roughest and toughest years of my life — one filled with unexpected loss, and one that forced me to approach things with strength that I didn’t even know that I had.
However, this year taught me the importance of self care and how essential it is it to take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself means more than bubble baths with Lush bathbombs, and watching endless amounts of TV (although I will admit that we all need that from time to time). It means going to the doctor for your annual check up. This means taking personal days when you feel like you need a mental health day. This even means taking a vacation. And, most importantly, it means doing things for you, in the midst of trying to get everything done on the never ending to-do list.
Of course, there are going to be people in your life who seem to be more concerned about piling stuff on you, instead of assisting with it. One thing that we all need to learn is how to approach it. Sure, they are going to expect that you do XYZ for them. However, their expectations don’t matter sometimes. At the end of the day, you can only do your best. That is something that I am still learning.
This leads me to my other goal for this year — which is to learn to appreciate the positive things, and focus on my progress instead of the bump in the road. How many of us are guilty of assessing our day and focusing on the fact that you could not get that thing done for whatever reason? In that moment, we often neglect that you completed quite a bit of work.
Therefore, I am approaching this next year in my life with the intent to focus on the good versus the bad. So, while I may not have completed a task, I will not try to focus on the fact that it’s done, but how much I was able to do. Or, while I may have had a few different things that have come at me through out the day, I want to try to have more of a focus on the good on my day.
At the end of the day, we are only human. Humans make mistakes, but they continue to grow and evolve. Sometimes, that may mean bumps in the road. However, all that matters is that we allow ourselves to feel what we need to feel, take care of ourselves, and try to remember there is more to life than just the negative.