What Does It Mean To Be In A Healthy Relationship?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationship that we share with significant others and how much we have invested in them. You know, how much time we spend with them, and what makes a relationship healthy.

I am no expert here, but I do have some opinions about the issue. Personally, I think that the definition of a healthy relationship varies from person to person. Of course, there are a ton of factors that go into it – how much time we spend with that person, the speed of how fast it goes, how much space one needs, and so much else. Furthermore, it’s important to remember that above all, a healthy relationship contains respect and honesty.

However, the question that surfaces is how much is too much? How much time is too much spent together? When should we give our partner space?

Now, as I said earlier, it differs from person to person. However, here are some things that to me makes a healthy relationship:

• The most important thing to me is having a life that’s outside of that person. You know, friends, family, hobbies and pets. I have had quite a few friends who have basically become invisible when they’ve gotten boyfriends. This is fine, because it’s important to spend quality time with their significant other. However, I do think it’s a problem when you leave your friends hanging – or even cancel – just because you want to make sure that you see your bae.
• Furthermore, what I think is also important is that you have respect for yourself. This means that if your boyfriend does something that bothers you, you let him know. I have also seen friends who are rightfully upset with their boyfriends, however when they actually talk things over, everything is fine in a few minutes. And, for some fights, that’s perfectly fine. However, I feel like when that happens, some feelings are being overlooked. That’s not okay. In my opinion, it’s important to recognize every feeling and communicate that with your partner. Otherwise, nothing changes and frustration builds.

Like I said earlier, I am not a counselor nor am I an expert. However, at the end of the day, I believe that I can still share my opinions.

This is why I am writing this blog post.