The type of breakup you hear about all of time is a romantic one. However, the one that you don’t hear about — and perhaps is even the most cutting and heartbreaking, is the platonic one.
The thing is we don’t anticipate friendships ending. Friends are the ones that are supposed to be there to lift you up when you need lifting and to be a source of support and companionship. There’s times that those relationships— like all — can be frustrating. However, the best thing about them — and perhaps the most beautiful— is that they are the ones that come with the most acceptance.
But sometimes, things happen. People grow apart, which is often the least painless one of them all. And no one’s guilty. It just happens as people progress in careers, move away, get married, and have babies.
The most painful thing is when there’s a blowup, a fight, or something that just cuts into the body so deep that it creates wounds and leaves scars once healed. The pain worsens when it’s someone that has been someone’s life for years and multiple stages of life. Trust me, I know this from experience. At the end of my twenties, I’ve had to say goodbye to a few friendships, people who I thought would be in my life forever.
But however common this is, it is something that I feel is not talked about. We talk plenty about romantic relationships ending. I mean, there are songs and novels and shows that are dedicated to that.
Friendship breakups though? Crickets.
This is something that I feel like needs to be normalized. I mean, I’m sure I’m not the only one on the planet who has experienced this. Therefore, I wish that there was more on this subject so that way one feels as though they are not alone, and the feeling is foreign and weird. That being said, those feelings and that pain is 100 percent valid.
And therefore, healing it is the exact same thing. Self care, allowing yourself to feel the feelings, and give yourself time to heal.
After all, like a regular breakup, time heals all wounds. I can say after experiencing one in the past year, that cliche is 100 percent true.
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